We all want a perfect and sublime relationship with a member of the opposite sex.
Some of us have succeeded in the first time, others have it after many failed attempts, others still remain searching.
No need to worry about this, because ” we all have our other half”, as
says an old proverb. Sooner or later, you and your beloved will meet to enjoy aspects of the
most sublime love, depending on how quickly you become aware of the REALITY.
It is essential to understand the typical errors that may appear in the “conventional ” couples.
Becoming aware can build a perfect union of love, based on the highest ideals.
We offer here a comparative analysis of the two types of relationships: conventional and spiritual .
-The motivations of the couple are not clear. Most of the time, the couple is modeled according to guidelines common set by others, rather than values. -Preference to the security and stability is given,
avoiding processing. This is why the individual evolution is so slow. Both deal with effort to be according to the image of the other; Lovers do not act freely. Do not act the way you feel honestly.
The closed process creates less self-confidence and less trust. We become attached and feel
dependent, and need another to value us.
“Do not take my place.” The power struggle appears. Who gives the orders? Who is the authority ? There is a conflict
of roles.Own interests predominate. The “ego” has the power.
There are fixed roles. We want to impose our own views upon the other. We feel separated, alone and dissatisfied. There is a fear of abandonment.
Dependence creates conditional exchanges. The relationship is managed through rules, contracts, and compulsion. the
basis of the union like a business concept: if I offered something, you give something in return. Attitudes are premeditated.
Manipulation can occur.
Lovers make rules not because they enjoy spending time together. Fall into a routine that destroys
creativity and inventiveness. Each one begins to believe that the other is the source of unhappiness, and this is why
each one must defend by themselves.
One has the feeling that something is missing, although it is not known exactly what it is. There are feelings of
fear, instability and guilt. One avoids the other or is criticized by certain behaviors that bother. They may
feel the desire to start a family, in the hope that this is the solution of the problem, and achieving
-The sense of failure as a couple.
There is a sense of helplessness about the course of events . Every lover begins to devalue the other. Resentments that may cause an even greater imbalance appear. There is a sense of despair, and that there is nothing to do. There is a way to bring harmony back to the couple.
The only solution is separation and divorce. Experience despair and loneliness. This could be the opportunity
for transformation, for the possible discovery of autonomy and freedom.
-The relationship is clearly established for a spiritual purpose, and common goals are the foundation of the
relationship. There is a mutual recognition of the freedom of each other. Lovers express openly and freely about which
are their desires and goals. The transformation is accepted, and there´s no jealousy. This is the reason why the spiritual evolution is very fast.
An open process allows each partner to be aware of their own independence. It is not to
change each other. Plus, it is accepted as it is, and you will help with our own presence.
Each has the same “range”, the same responsibilities. Everyone respects the “space” of the other, and their desire to be
together or alone. Flexibility in roles is given: one is there to help to advance the other.
Each is self- sufficient and not dependent on the other. Love gives security. Each is open to the desire of the other in spiritual improvement. This raises a strong understanding of the “tools” used in the
spiritual development: the need for spiritual practice, the granting of time, travel, and other requirements. this
leads to spontaneity and harmony.
Autonomy leads to tolerance, detachment, and delivery. No more domination and possessiveness. Both
explore together spontaneously the happy adventure of spiritual evolution as a couple. There is happiness, mutual confidence, and harmony.
There is a constant state of play and humor between them. Spontaneity, and inspiration are evident.
-enjoyment. Roles and responsibilities change spontaneously. They invent new ways to love. They feel really good and happy together.
The deep love leads to a sense of stability. It may appear the desire to start a family, not because both feel fear of the loss of the other, but to fulfill a higher purpose. The spiritual union of both
lovers induce to a higher sense of security.
There are feelings of devotion and worship. The mutual devotion awakens the divine essence in both lovers, and the mutual self-sacrifice creates a state of great delicacy. Love becomes cosmic, feel that God is who we
love, through our beloved .
The relationship is thus the opportunity to reach a spiritual marriage or union. The couple discover the primary love –
love between two archetypes, the male and the female. This love leads the couple to the UNIT, grace and divine blessing. They fulfill the ideal of all relations: the discovery of UNITY, or in other words, of the MOST SUPREME REALITY.