“And when one of them shall meet their other half, the true half of themselves, the pair shall be lost in an astonishment of love, friendship and intimacy, and one shall no longer be able to disappear from each other’s view, not even for a moment.”
2500 years ago.
The birth of Twin Flames
The Eastern spiritual philosophies, as established in the Bhagavad Gita, the Veda’s from the Hinduism and many other writings of the ancient wise, teach us that the soul was created as one: a unity of both male and female. The idea that the soul has split itself in two sexes has been formulated throughout the centuries by philosophers, poets and spiritual teachers. An understandable image of the Twin Flame was created twenty-five years ago, in a legend that has always triggered the imagination of the Western world: in Plato’s “Symposium”, Aristophanes compliments love, as he describes how Zeus has split the soul into two opposite halves which both wander the Earth, in an eternal search for each other.
Throughout the entire Universe, Twin Flames will be drawn towards each other by the cord of memory that connects them. They recognize each other with an absolute certainty, and can never leave each other’s sides. It is a search through many lifetimes, en during all these lifetimes the two of them will have certainly met before. However, each time –previously- their connection was not complete.
Perhaps the Twin Flame concept can only now, in the Aquarius Era, gain knowledge, and we have not been ready for the ultimate completion until today.
Two human souls, born from one and the same soul, and therefore known to each other during many incarnations on earth. They complement each other, and help each other through their process of development. Twin Flames are both each other’s opposites, and the perfection of themselves. They experience the sense of perfect unity.
Their love is unconditional. Twin Flames are destined for each other, they are meant for each other. Their connection is immensely strong: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. After meeting your Twin Flame, your life changes forever, and the attraction you feel towards this person will be beyond this world: something you have never felt before.
By now we know that “the meeting” is linked to an immense transformation process: an enormous amount of pulling and pushing, letting go of many old fears, old patterns, old beliefs and expectations, and learning to love unconditionally.
When the fear has subsided, and both Twin Flames are connected to their Higher Selves, the love will draw them towards each other like magnets. However, as soon as the slightest amount of fear comes back, it will cause the Twin to create distance and walk away from love by pushing the other half off, by running.
In only a short amount of time, Twin Flames can take a huge leap on their spiritual journey. Many things get clarified, and insights that had been lingering deep within will surface.
The ‘character’ of the Twin Flame connection
- telepathic contact
- picking up physical distortions of your other half
- emotional blockage (like a young child)
- finding everything about your Twin wonderful: you feel enormously (sexually) attracted to them, while they may not even be your type
- battle, misunderstanding, resistance, fights, denial, confusion, loneliness, loss of focus, insomnia, heart ache (physically and mentally)
- spiritual development within one of the Twins, while the other (often) still lives in their ego.
- letting go from, or losing certain people around you because they no longer “match” with you.
- excruciating Soul pain (when physically separated from each other, or when your Twin pushes you away)
- your patience is put through an enormous test which can take years
- there simply aren’t any words to describe the deep, intense feelings you have for your Twin
- disability to be intimate with another person (even willing to remain alone when your Twin is too afraid to come into your life)
- polarities (huge differences in character)
- most Twin Flames chose a career in social service (at least one of the two): many Twins are doctors, nurses, lawyers, judges, therapists, coaches, ER-employees, fire fighters, etc.
- your surroundings don’t understand you (anymore). Usually you are being told to “let them go”. Well meant advices, but obviously impossible!
- Synchronicities (for example: you see your Twin’s name everywhere). You receive confirmations from the Universe again, and again
Three types of Twin Flame situations:
1. one of the two is ‘stuck’ in a marriage
2. one of the two is not ready to commit, does not believe in love (anymore) or looks for appreciation with countless others.
3. you are being separated by religion
Twin Flame versus Soul Mate
The Twin Flame is often confused with the Soul Mate. The main difference between them is that Twin Flames are one: they are a unity, they came from one and the same soul. The Soul Mate came from many other souls (soul family).
Souls usually incarnate in groups near each other, and have -aside from an individual purpose- a collective purpose as a group. Within such a group each individual can take their own place, usually as a consequence from many previous incarnations. One soul has often had the same role in a long range of incarnations. During all these lifetimes one has created many strong bonds with other members of their “soul family”, of which there were often love relationships as well. These related souls are called Soul Mates. The recognition of a Soul Mate is experienced by many people as wondrous. The similarities in feelings are just as intense as when meeting your Twin Flame; nearly identical, even. So basically, the difference is hardly noticeable at first. Later on, this will become more and clearer.
Soul Mates will walk the path towards healing (emotional maturing, self-love and self-respect) together: next to each other, in a friendship and / or love relationship. Twin Flames, however, walk this path of transformation separately, individually. This is also called the “bridge over” or separation.
Twin Flames share something very special together. As soon as they first meet, first lock eyes, the love between them is extremely intense. This feeling dismisses all logic and everything “normal”. However, one is never higher, better, or more beautiful than another. Creating distinction is a tool of the brain; the ego. Twin Flames have been linked together since the moment of creation, but the feeling of recognition and the intense love nearly always resembles meeting a Soul Mate. However, Twin Flames are two parts of one union, so there is no discussing their unity: it is an unbreakable bond. One Twin has usually followed a majority of male incarnations, while the other has gone through a majority of female incarnations. Nevertheless, both souls will gain experience incarnating as the other sex as well, to fully experience mankind in all its aspects. Before birth, a “blueprint” is known, in which is described what the incarnation will look like, should everything go according to plan. So before incarnating on earth, it has already been set in stone whether or not you will meet your Twin Flame in this life. Sometimes both Twins will not incarnate at the same time, but one will function as the guide of their other half.
Twin Flames are walking the journey towards awareness, individually. Soul Mates will go through this process together. Twins usually experience a (physical) separation during this difficult path of healing. Usually this occurs after the “pulling and pushing” phase (the phase in which one often speaks of ‘the runner’ and ‘the stayer’). The agony of temporary separation can go immensely deep, you can even become ill. However, this excruciating (traumatic) pain has been experienced before, during the splitting of the soul many light-years ago. So basically, this is a déja-vu.
Twin Flames mirror each other. They are meant for each other in every aspect. It is destined, a two-unity.
You can recognize a karmic meeting by immediately having the feeling you ‘already know’ the other, or getting a sensation of trust. Often there is also a mutual sense of attraction, something forcing in the air, causing you to want to be together and discover each other. When the opportunity arises for both partners, this strong attraction can grow into a love relationship, or a serious case of being in love. These feelings can be so intense that you think you have met your Twin Flame or a Soul Mate. Yet, there is a difference in experiencing these relationships regarding Karmic connection. This considers relationships of people who have met in previous lives, in which they have experienced intense emotions towards each other. There was something unresolved about these emotions: guilt, fear, co-dependence, infidelity, harm, etc. Because of this unresolved emotional load, these people attract each other again in another incarnation. The goal of these renewed meetings is that the unresolved emotions can be resolved after all. This manifests by reviving the old ways of treating each other for a short while (repetition of the old situation), and then presenting both partners with the choice to act differently now. The spiritual goal of the renewed meeting, is making different choices in this lifetime than in the previous.
Twin Flames have little (or no) karma to resolve. They meet -first and foremost- to begin their own individual and spiritual journey inwards, towards themselves, so that they can rediscover each other again later on, from equality and wholeness. The romance between Twin Flames is of course, present, but eventually they will attract each other again to serve mankind, to spread love.
Is the recognition between Twin Flames mutual? It is, on soul level. However, there can be practical and emotional circumstances which cause one of the Twins to resist recognizing their other half.
So how do you know you have met your Twin Flame? There is a deep, overpowering inner knowing. It is a love, so big and disorganizing, that you can hardly get around it. It touches you in the core of your very soul. Naturally, you can have this confirmed by a Twin Flame coach, or a medium specialized in soul love. Longing to meet your Twin creates nothing but confusion. Not everyone will meet their Twin Flame in this life. Twin Flame love is unique, and the most ultimate and intense kind of love in existence. It happens to you, it comes over you. Looking for it has no use whatsoever.
Pulling and pushing
Twin Flames experience an (eternal) pulling and pushing. We are all under a telepathic connection from the moon. Even though this is no planet, you are most definitely involved with it. The moon regulates the pulling and pushing. You can compare it with the Yin and Yang symbol: Yin symbolizes the pulling, while Yang symbolizes the pushing, like day and night, man and woman, positive and negative. The Twin Flame connection is intensified during the pulling and pushing process.
Because Twin Flames symbolize Yin and Yang, the pulling and pushing can eternally continue, you cannot change ones character. A human being cannot be fixed. The transformation process goes a lot deeper that we can imagine. It has nothing to do with changing your personality (your character, which is formed starting at three years of age). Basically it is about striving for wholeness, from the inside. It is the way to self-love and self-respect on a tremendously high level.
Twin Flames can be heavily tested by any imaginable conflict. Eventually, the magnetic attraction between Twin Flames will be so strong that every obstacle shall be overcome.
Aspects of a Soul Connection (Soul Mate / Twin Flame)
- the love for each other seems to erupt ‘magnetically’, there is nothing you have to do.
- you feel a tremendously strong sense of unity
- you feel unconditional love towards each other
- you have never experienced this intense kind of love before
- it feels like ‘coming home’
- you know this is the ultimate love
- anything besides love in your life becomes less important and more relative
- you understand aspects of life you had never understood before
- it feels like you have known each other forever
- you feel completed
- you are each other’s ultimate mirror
- you know exactly how the other is feeling
- you know things about each other that are actually impossible for you to know
- you don’t have to say a word to be able to communicate
- you have a strong sense of recognition
- you feel energy ‘dancing’ between the two of you
- you sense you have a mission together in this life
- you know something very, very special is going on
- everything ‘falls into place’in your life, and you see more links and connections
- it can be an entrance, see-through of sneak-preview to the non-material life
- you have always had the feeling something was ‘missing’ in your life, and you finally know what it was
- it’s a key that opens the door towards yourself
- you pick up on each other’s thoughts and moods
- your characters are complimentory (two opposites of one being) but your values and attitude in life are similar, and your professions may even be alike
- before meeting each other, you have both gone through a period of loneliness, or a period of coming back to your senses
- every phone call or ‘date’ with the other seems like the first, and each time creates butterflies again
- you are drawn to each other like magnets, want to touch each other continuously or want to be together constantly
- telepathic contact
- meeting each other in dreams
- you can strongly sense each other’s mood, when together and from a distance
- what you share with your Twin Flame cannot be compared to any other relationship or friendship. The feeling you experience towards each other will not occur with anybody else
- pulling and pushing
- being buddies through thick and thin, and forgiving each other despite of the difficult times that arise during the pulling and pushing. Like a parent-child relationship, there is an unconditional love from the very start
- the unconditional aspect only disappears when the ego becomes too strong, and starts acting and thinking from fear
- an enormous amount of conflicts, which can drive you apart. However, Twin Flames always return to each other
- every meeting, kisss, touch, look, etc., feels like the first: it will always be fun and exciting
- often, without knowing, you have been close to each other (your house, school, etc.)
- no matter how hard one pulls, or the other pushes; Twin Flames are always connected, and nothing can come in between
- you can miss each other terribly, feeling like you have been amputated
- Twin Flames always cross each other’s path again once the fear subsides, and the missing surfaces
- you can feel misunderstood, your surroundings will not understand you (anymore)
Disclaimer: all rights go to Caroline from http://www.carmacoaching.nl
Thank you so much.
You´re welcome 🙂
I have read a great deal regarding Twin Flames because of my own experience over the last few years. It has truly been the most magical, intense, enlightening and heart wrenching experience I have ever had. The majority of information out there is repetitive, as well as hard to take seriously at times. It was a pleasure to read your post, as it was well written and informative.
It has been since May of 2009 since we first connected and we have yet to be together in the physical yet. Telepathy is are main form of communication and at first this was hard to wrap may head around. And, of course I cannot talk to anyone about this, for reasons I’m sure you can understand. It’s nice to know there are others out there experiencing the same thing. Verification that I’m not crazy. ; )
Thank you again and I’m looking foward to more posts.
Whoa! This article is very helpful. Yes to all those on the aspects! Thank you for this article.
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adriaan532013Adrie van Gulik said:
I knew. i have known it from the moment that we met. Thank you!
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This is by far one of the best articles on twin flames i have ever read. Thank you!
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Thank you, very helpful.
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I post makes me realize that such things do exist and is not sheer craziness to think so, obviously have had The experience as such, do have some questions would appreciate some help firstname.lastname@example.org
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I have been told that I have met my twin soul/flame. Immediate, unconditional love. We are both women, she claims to be straight and, yet, she says our union is the most natural, intensely loving experience of her life. A year later, she has broken up our insanely intense relationship claiming that she suddenly remembered her dream of always being with a man. I AM DEVASTATED. I have no idea how to navigate our separation. It is intensely physically and emotionally painful. I don’t know how to function.
I’m mot sure if the man I’m friends with is my twin flame but our connection sure is like nothing I’ve ever felt or experienced. He turned my life upside down in good way even though I didn’t realize it at first. The only thing that pains me the most (Physically and Emotionally) is he’s gay and I know he doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life with an asexual women. I feel like he’s waiting on the perfect man to come around and I will never be a man. It is excruciatingly painful at times because I don’t think he’s awakened yet and if he has he’s ignoring it or doesn’t know whats happening. I haven’t felt emotions this painful in my life. When were separated which has been most or relationship it’s hard to stop thinking of him. I try o forget him and I see or hear something that reminds me of him.
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I’ve been experiencing this twin flames connection since last month. Before, i didnt know anything about twin flames. Someone told me that I could have met or connected with my twin flames. Because I didnt understand so I tried to find information about twin flames. And after I read some articles including this one, I must say that I do have connected with my twin flames. I had my doubt and sometimes I still do because first, I still havent physically met him yet but I know him. Second, this person is quite well-known. Third, I am married. Fourth, I live in the other part of the world and english is not my native language. So I think you can imagine how crazy it is for me to experience the whole thing.
Anyhow, because of twin flames connection yes I can feel his mood sometimes his thought, his fears, etc. Contants feeling of pushing and pulling…feeling of intense love…feeling of missing him so much and vice versa….sometimes i wonder if the other twin can also feel the connection. Not only that, I also can feel energies around me….with a little consentration I can feel other people emotion. But with him/ my twin i can easily feel his.
I’ve been trying to make contact with him via sosmed but I know I cant be blunt and just say….hi I am your twin flames ….even though I think he feels it too. But his fears is still too big. It’s so weird that I can easily read his mind and fears…..however from many articles about twin flames I also knew that I can’t force it…so that what im going to do…just let it happend when it happened. Talking to him telephaticaly has been my regular thing to do these days. Most of our telephatic conversation is about supporting each other, our fears and what we need to do to let it go. And i must say it’s wonderful feeling when I can feel his happiness and his love because of something I said to him….maybe only people who have had the same twin flames experience knew it.
A medium sensed the energy of my twin flame around me, a deep love that will grow from a very solid friendship. She told me he is already in my life, the feeling is definitely mutual, but that we have not recognized it to each other yet. We were both married to other people at the time of meeting but she said we will both leave our partners and connect after healing from those relationships. She said it was manifesting soon – I feel him stronger around me everyday but the agony of waiting is driving me crazy! Some days it feels like it never will happen and I am so sad. How do we cope with this and have patience for something that is truly amazing to begin!!
Thanks for the article! I love it!
I´ve met me twin and we´re currently in the pull and push phase because he went on holidays two days after we met. The connection was so strong and overwhelming that It was like being dragged by a huracane lol! But we talk with each other every day. I dreamed about him a week before we met, and the night we met he asked me, have u dramed about me? That was insane! and even more, he told me that being with me is like looking himself in the mirror… He´s 20 years older than me, but everytime we talk, many things that are happening to me now or happened to me in the last years, similiar things happened to him when he was my age…
This is the most detailed and useful list of Twin Soul ‘traits’ I have ever come across.
I am going into year 4 with my Twin Flame, the things which have occurred in these past 4 years have been insane. I have dealt with some past life regression from this and I now know that my Twin and I WERE together in another time, in another atmosphere. I can’t even say it was ‘another life’ it simply was another time cuz my soul is still the same and we did not reside here on Earth but in another galaxy not so far away. TRUST ME, this all sounds as crazy to me as it does to whoever reads this but I have been shown/taught/told some insane things since this connection was made here on Earth.
I am a ‘free spirited’ person but now all I want is for my Twin to protect me, NEVER EVER have I EVER wanted a man to do this but it’s all I want for some odd reason. And go figure his name is Alex…Alex means the defender of man. So see, he WAS sent here to protect me.
Twin Souls/Flames are NO JOKE and it cannot be confused with anything else. It is not like ‘other love’ you may have had before and it sure as heck is NOT like anyone else’s relationships.
Never hold this ‘relationship’ to the same standards of ‘normal’ relationships cuz all you will get is heartache, pain and frustration.
Count your blessings everyday you met your other half as MOST people never will.
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Wow I am crying uncontrollably. I have this a with a coworker and am married. Nothing physical just on a soul level but I can’t get away from him, can’t function properly, my feelings are identical to this and it’s killing me.
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I’m only confused on one thing . How can you be Yin and Yang but also be each others mirrors. The person I think is my twin is not much like me but it is a really strong connection and we have been through the runner chaser phase 3 times . But the mother of his child he’s known for almost 13 years and he is still In love with her even though they fight, get jealous and are negative tward eachother . They are almost exactly the same but that is because she carries a lot of masculine energy that mirrors his . So this confuses me a lot . Can anybody give me something to go off please and thanks 😅
Unlike any other article on twin flames yours is a very deep, transparent and honest words about twin souls!
True love transcended everything
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I have to say I started on our journey from searching for explanations of what was occurring everytime we met up by accident. The biggest kicker was when my uncle died I felt like I couldn’t breathe properly and I had to purposely suck down some air (my uncle had emphysema) and I worked out after walking in my house I smelt fresh cigarette smoke and difficulty breathing that I was with my uncle. It continued until I got a medium to show him the light back home. I had other strange things happen here and there over the years but nothing like feeling my uncle before. Odd that it started after I left my marriage. My twin is with a gold digger for now so I’m letting that eventually dissolve on its own. We are still in contact and he is always a gentleman. I apologised and in true form he asked what for? Is that not someone so lovely I don’t know what is!
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