When a Twin Flame relationship goes “bad”, it happens for a reason. It happens because even though you are apart there is still more to learn.
The two of you are still connected, and you are still teaching each other. The lessons being taught may concern grace, surrender, trust, detachment, inner strength, forgiveness, etcetera.
Forgiveness is the hardest one of all. There is no easy answer to questions like “how do I cope with the loss of my Twin Flame”, because it is the most painful loss of a relationship you will ever feel. There will be an ache in your heart and a longing of your soul to be in the arms of your loved one, but it will not happen: for now.
And then, to make matters worse and to make the loss even more painful, no one around you will understand what you are going through. It seems to be a continuous, solitary struggle. You feel alone, cast out, perhaps even to a point where you may think you are crazy.
No one will understand and there you are, left alone in your sadness. You may try to explain this connection, this unimaginable journey to people, but they will merely present you with cliche phrases like “some things were never meant to be” or “he (she) wasn’t right for you anyway” or “you live and you learn”. But no, dear one, they won’t understand, and no, this relationship is not like any one they have ever experienced.
So, there you are, left with a whole bunch of questions, with no real answers that you are satisfied with. It seems to be just the way it is, until new information is presented to you.
Yes, the two of you are still connected.
Yes, the two of you still think about each other.
Yes, you will still feel their energy, and know when they are upset, emotional, or thinking about you.
And yes, it will upset you, make you angry, make you feel helpless, give you feelings of hopelessness, and also make you wonder: “why was I working so hard to move up this relationship ladder if all I got was this?
It does not seem right to feel such great and immense love and share such a connection with someone, only finding it to not last or linger? Yes, it is quite sad.
However, just know you are learning something right now. You are still connected and you two are still affecting each other.
There are no good or solid answers to what you are experiencing and for the time being, you are going to have to find some peace in the pain.
But remember, if you center within yourself, your own spiritual growth, your own healing, and becoming aware of the dynamics of this connection, recognizing your lessons, and using the experiences to evolve, you will start to see the change shifting from within to outside, and as your Twin is your perfect mirror, when you get truly ready, he (or she) will be ready for you, because your bond is unbreakable, and your love is divine.
roxy said:
I dont know who to reach out to anymore- it’s so comforting to know that other people do understand.Not just friends and family who tell you to “just move on”
The pain is so deep.. the crying never stops. I haven’t been separated for nearly as long as many of you, and i sympathize with you.
For the last 4 years, my twin and I have been seeing each other on and off every few months- never went longer than 2 months because we both felt the awful pain.
This time it’s been 6 months, not a word, I have closed myself off from the social media world because it is just too painful.. this is the first time he seems extremely happy without me.
He has gone back to school (which im happy for him) and seems different. I have this ache in my heart thinking he does not care for me anymore. he doesn’t miss me.. it’s been 6 months and he’s doing fine. This kills me inside so much.
I am far from fine, I am worse off than ever.
Although I feel him from time to time, and in my heart I feel him missing me.. the length of times makes me wonder.. maybe i’m just crazy and obsessed with him and he has just simply moved on- over me?
He’s in my dreams every single night since the separation. Dreams where he tells me he loves me and misses me. Some dreams not so good
Help.. what does this all mean? Is this the true separation stage beginning?
How can he just move on 😦
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Faith said:
this is normal in a twin flame relationship. U feel rejected and hurt right now ad feel u r the only one who cares. He still loves u trust me and he probably thinks of u as much as u think of him. He is getting his life together, u should be proud of him. This is whats supposed to happen in the separation phase, this is y u have been put into each other lives in the first place. Twin flame relationships r not meant to be happily ever after immediately. U r meant to dig deep inside of each other and bring all the hurt and pain of ur insecurities so u can grow from it and work on it. He’s getting his life together and learning to live without u for now because that is whats best for now. U both r not ready for a permanent reunion right now. So my advice to u is live ur life too and stop crying over him, u two r able to feel each others emotions, u r probably hurting him because he can’t be fully happy without feeling the emotions of u. He has not forgotten about u and he never will forget about if he really is ur twin flame. He loves u. Now just be happy and go through ur own spiritual healing and when ur ready god will bring u back together for a permanent reunion. It may take months or years but don’t stop ur whole life and fall into depression waiting for him. Live ur life.
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R said:
I see your post is over a year old… I read it and was deeply touched by how similar I feel about my twin…has time helped you heal??
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Silva said:
Hello all, I am so thankful that I found this site. I met my TF 2 years ago, she is married and a woman. We went through the “honeymoon” phase and then the separation began. During that time, she found out she was pregnant. I never saw the baby as a threat but as a blessing, she on the other hand, didn’t share my views. Even though we went through the separation, we still saw each other regularly because I live with her parents. After the baby was born, she sometimes would ignore my messages, it usually happened when the husband was around but when we would see each other it was like everything else faded away. We would stare in each other’s eyes and two times she tried to kiss me in front of everyone (husband included), but there is still some work we have to go through. Just when I thought that things were getting better, I had to leave and haven’t been able to go back and that was almost 2 months ago. My TF didn’t liked that and she has been asking me when I was going back. The thing here is that ever since I left I have been dealing with a lot of problems. Everyday there is a new challenge for me and I know that all of this is strengthening my soul and I know that the reunion with my TF is getting closer. I have been seeing a lots of 11:11 and I have been dreaming about her and us being together in harmony, peace and love.
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zaraana9 said:
she is my best friend.we have a deep and Love-filled relationship,althought both of us married.I’m the awaken one,if one can say so,she is totally and forever in love with her husband.yest. I was blunt,and asked her about her feelings towards me.although I knew the answer,but i knew,that I needed to hear it,in order to let this and her go.finally and once and for all.dunno how will I do this.our lives are so interwined,it’s impossible,to not to run into each other…..I worked on this for yrs,to make it a friendship,just a friendship,so we shouldn’t let each other go,cause I wanted to let it go,she not so much.and when we had break-time,to live life without one another,it was too hard for me….but this time,I sense that it’s the real Letting-go.not letting go of my illusions and hopes of how our relationship should be,I am, I did let go of her/Him.dying here…..
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Elmo said:
Wonderful article, I really like reading all your TF articles. I am currently separated from my TF, and I do know that we both have to do some healing before we can be together forever, however I am really wondering whether the reunion is based upon the perfect Universal moment, so is it already “known” when we will unite or are we able to delay or even speeden up the process and reunion?
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George C said:
To all those that have written about their most precious moments of all lifetimes with their ‘TWIN FLAMES’ I need to say this to all. ‘NO ONE ‘ is an expert. All the sites and all the people that write, or talk live on the internet(which is fantastic to have the technology like we have) are all correct or enlightened. In my instance I have been with my twin flame for twenty six years. She is married and her husband is a good guy. They have been married for twenty eight years.
The last eight years we have been living in ‘Adultery’. For my twin it was fine to go on like we were. However we all do things that are driven with the urge to be with them longer and more frequent. I did something stupid to force the time and be with her more.
It backfired. I tried to explain to her why I did it. She admitted that she adored me and if she was single , that she would marry me. However, for what I’ve done I am paying the heaviest price of all. She seperate from me to heal and recover.
It is the ‘MOST HURTFUL OF WAYS TO BE APART’, it is the worst thing to do to ‘PUSH HER/Him to come to ‘US’.
Time is a hurtful period and we must all be in a state that we ‘MUST’ at all cost persevere the separation.
I am Fifty nine this year and I have told my Twin Flame that she is ‘The end of the line for Me’ .
I don t want any one else in my life . I am going to live my life for the ‘LOVE OF MY TWIN FLAME’ for there is no better love than the one that ‘My mirror can ever give US’.
She can hurt me more than ‘Anyone and More Than Anything can Ever.’ She knows what to do , what to say and when to say it. She knows and feels everything as much I think she does not care.
You Twin Flame needs space to know what to ‘NEED TO DO AND FIND ‘ to mature. To explore new horizons and loves that will make her appreciate you as their mirror image.
‘We MUST ALL’ understand that whatever we might think or believe about the Twin Flame saga and eternity together, when God permits it and when God decides we will ‘UNITE’, it will happen ‘THEN’ not before or after.
Yes, it will. When we meet our Twin Flame it is time to get the ‘ONE SOUL’ to unite again. It might be at your death bed. Perhaps before.
Writing like these will help all of us to read what experiences we go through. I must stress to you all that it is not meant to be how ‘WE VISUALIZE IT’.
XXXXXXXXXXXXX. IT IS HOW GOD HAS PLANNED IT XXXXXXXXXX
REMEMBER THAT ‘ no one else understands ‘US’ but the creator.
We must all communicate through ‘OUR ‘ creator for it to be possible.
He is the Devine creator that knows it all: “past present and future”.
So stay on your journey and say to your creator this –
“My twin flame is the being of Violet Fire”
“My twin flame is the purity of God’s desire”
Every moment of pain and hurt. Every moment of desire and wish to be with them.
As hard as it is, ‘ I ‘ too am in a lot of pain. However, I find comfort in my God that has created all this, so there is no better understanding that can give me most comfort but ” My God”.
Don t ever ever give up hope. Look after yourselves and say to yourselves that you love your Twin Flame beyond comprehension. Beyond any understanding and most importantly ‘ UNCONDITIONALKY’ whatever they do, think or experience that you yourselves might not like that they do.
You must accept them as they evolve and as they are if YOU really BELIVE in them to be your Twin Flame.
This will manifest in the union and the service that we as Twins must have to be able to make the unity come true.
The universe unfolds as it should. The carpet of our journey unfolds in front of us all. It is ‘RED’ it is full of ‘sorrow and happiness’ all in the one basket of what life offers us to prepare us to go to our ALMIGHTY for eternity in LOVE .
The same ‘MATURE LOVE ‘ that we were created with by our creator.
It is OUR TEST OF SPIRITUALITY AS INDIVIDUALS AND AS THE “TWIN FLAME ” that we claim to be.
So be strong and positive that we will all unite in service for all mankind to observe our love for our twins no matter the pain no matter the wait.
Xxxxxxx. Believe and it, your Hear, mind and thoughts. YOUR Mind, Body and Soul’ will tell the universe that you are ready when God says it is to happen.
You will make it happen by the will of your creator. Xxxxx
Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx. IT WILL HAPPEN XXXXXXXXXX
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B said:
My TF and I have been in and out of each others lives for about 15 years. I cannot take the back and forth. Running, being upset with one another and sadness. I am so sick without her. I am depressed inside and trying to hide it all. She left me again after coming back to me after 3 years of nothing. We discussed our connection and decided to be together. It was all too strong for me, but I’ve been waiting 15 years. She left and I can’t give up. I have to keep living. I am tired of giving all the love and getting nothing but misunderstood. I will not give up, but my heart is shattered.
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L said:
No one understands how I feel in my life about this separation…including my twin, she says because she accepts that this is what has to be done she feels at peace and happy with it, I am a mess inside. I know she is the more advanced one yet I am angry that I’m having to feel this and to live this pain. I feel like I’m going crazy. I can’t believe I’m actually posting something either…I feel completely alone. How do I get to where she’s vibrating???
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Anna said:
Wow.. As I read this tears won’t stop falling down. I feel your pain, I really do because I’m dealing with the same.. The worst of this is the fact that nobody understands me and how difficult it is to be without him or just to give up on him and move on..
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Lost said:
How are you supposed to live with this? I can’t really love anyone else, not in the same way. When I try to keep it off my mind, he’s in my dreams. When he’s in my dreams he ends up back on my mind. This is the longest we have gone without talking since I met him. He’s always come back whenever we lost touch within just 2 to 3 months.
If he’s really gone I feel like I’ll never be okay, and that I’ll have to pretend the rest of my life like I am. No one understands. I’m alone. I’m so tired of being alone. We used to talk every single day. We were so close. He’s my other half, and I’m forced to be without him. The tears won’t stop coming today. It’s been a bad day when I woke up from a dream and realized once again, he’s not coming back this time.
I tell myself I’m going to be fine if he never comes back, but there’s this part of me that won’t accept that. There’s this part of me that will never stop wanting him to come back. I want to wish I never met him. I want to hate him. I can’t hate him even though he left me this way. If I can’t hate him then I can’t forget him and I can’t stop loving him. So what the hell do I do… He changed my life and me for the better. He saw me in a way no one else ever did or ever will, and yet he broke me completely. He promised no matter what happened we’d always be there for each other.. Broken promises from someone who means absolutely everything to you is the worst kind of pain.
I just had to write it down somewhere. I’m going crazy holding it all inside all the time, I even started a book about it. A love so unconditional and out of this world should at least have a happy ending somewhere….
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Kennique said:
Lost:
I once too felt this way as I have been back and forth with my Twin for 15 years and we still havent united. However it was only i decided that chasing him was only hurting me, is when I really begin the road to healing self because the moral of the twin flame story is, YOU MUST LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF, THEY WAY YOU ARE LOVING HIM. That means looking at the abondanment for what it really is, is has nothing to do with your twin, the abandonment was already inside you, they just bring it out. You have to turn your attention to self, and let them go in love, and I assure you, the agonizing PULL that your feel, the rope that seems to be tied around you and him, it will go away. I mean, you will love your Twin but once you become healed enough, love yourself enough, there would be no need for the PULL. This doesnt mean you won’t unite, but it does mean you will be released to fullfill the purpose God has for your life. And if and when this is suppose to happen it will, but trust me, at the moment you will be free enough to love someone else with same unconditional love you have for your twin, that is the purpose…
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Kennique said:
I once too felt this way as I have been back and forth with my Twin for 15 years and we still havent united. However, it was only i decided that chasing him was only hurting me, is when I really begin the road to healing self because the moral of the twin flame story is, YOU MUST LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF, THEY WAY YOU ARE LOVING HIM. That means looking at the abondanment for what it really is, is has nothing to do with your twin, the abandonment was already inside you, they just bring it out. You have to turn your attention to self, and let them go in love, and I assure you, the agonizing PULL that your feel, the rope that seems to be tied around you and him, it will go away. I mean, you will love your Twin but once you become healed enough, love yourself enough, there would be no need for the PULL. This doesnt mean you won’t unite, but it does mean you will be released to fullfill the purpose God has for your life. And if and when this is suppose to happen it will, but trust me, at the moment you will be free enough to love someone else with same unconditional love you have for your twin, that is the purpose…
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kate kemp (@KateKate88kemp) said:
I am going through this now the separation is the most painful experience of my life we have the intense connection but he has run away from it the pain is with me every day and some days I can’t stop crying.
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Shauna said:
Worded perfectly 💖
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Kate Swan said:
There is no choice but to accept what must be with your twin flame – once you find them there will never be anyone else and you must accept that you will love them forever – with or without them by your side.
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Tracy Porter said:
It’s hard to focus on the work I need to do with all of this pain. I feel like I am going to die.
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raul said:
this is a brilliant read. touches the heart deeply..its been almost 2.5 years since i separated from my twin flame and each day has been tough for me..i keep thinking of her and no matter what issue in life there is, invariably her thought comes to mind. i am slowly coming out of it and i am much stronger but my love for her just wont go away no matter what. there are days i don’t want to think of her yet she appears in my dreams..
ours has been merry go round of intense love, separation, reunion and again separation. she has been the runner in the relationship. after reading your story, it gives me more strength and hope that i can rise out of it all and become the person i was before all this happened
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